The psychological origins of waiting (… and waiting, and waiting) to work.
Oh god, this hits super close to home.
“Work finally begins,” says Alain de Botton, “when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly.” For people with an extremely fixed mind-set, that tipping point quite often never happens. They fear nothing so much as finding out that they never had what it takes.
This is me, and I have a loooot of shame focused around this aspect of myself. Always, in the back of my mind, there is a voice that says, “You are not good enough, and you never have been.” I recognize this as irrational and as a hindrance to success, which leads to more shame. Shame spiral!
If you’ve ever read a YA dystopia, read this parody. It is SPOT ON.
Mallory has written the most perfect parody of all YA dystopia novels:
Now, society’s bad. There was only one way for society to survive. Society’s real bad. Our society was bad after the War because of bad things. Remember all the things about your society right now? Just make ‘em worse, that’s our society. Nothing’s trees but everything’s brown leggings and government.
I don’t trust anyone either, he said, but let’s take our shirts off in this abandoned old building that probably used to be a warehouse and then trust each other.